I heard yesterday that my sister’s ex-husband had died. I was immediately filled with sadness… and yet there had been nothing but bitterness between them for so many years. I couldn’t help remembering though their first days of dating, their babies, our family gatherings that he was so much a part of  until later when the hurt and the recriminations began. I had these same feelings when my cousin’s ex died a few years ago. How do you forget the hopes and the happiness of the younger selves – a former existence where anything was possible.

I will remember them at their happiest. Both of these men. For without them, we wouldn’t have the legacy of their children left behind or the good memories or the love that was once there.

Rest in peace and be with God.